Insight or Hindsight – Which do you choose?
As we are in the year 2020, I am reminded of the concept that 20/20 represents perfect vision. I feel that this is a time to connect to our inner knowing. A time for appreciating and making use of our insight rather than waiting to have hindsight.
I come across so many women who know that if they continue as they are, burnout lies ahead, yet it is difficult to change path.
We are often such good listeners and take everyone’s opinions into account whilst our own voice remains silent.
When it comes to what is best for us our emotions, thoughts and ideas are most important.
Many of us have been raised to value our thinking over any other aspects of ourselves so we tend to underestimate the messages we get from our emotions and physical sensations.
How to gain insight rather than hindsight
Pause for a moment and consider how well you know the other parts of yourself.
- What does tired feel like to you?
- Who or what depletes you?
- Who or what nourishes you?
- Is there a place that feeds your soul?
If you can answer questions like these then I’m guessing that you know yourself well. If you don’t know where to begin with these questions, then today is a good day to start your reflections.
Sometimes we’re scared to look at alternatives to the status quo. Or we feel more comfortable with the challenges we have than the new ones we might encounter if we made changes.
Whatever the case it’s good to recognise what we are choosing and feel empowered in this.
One of the ways we can explore our inner world is through writing; jotting down thoughts, feelings, memories, hopes and fears. This is writing from our conscious and unconscious. It could be shared in a small group with others on the same journey.
I often write like this and find it helps me to figure out my feelings about things, offers me a record of how things change and gives me space to explore possible choices.
Therapeutic writing, as it is known, can be even more expansive and include objects, images, poems, lyrics and other stories. Why not start with journaling and see how that feels to you. As I continue to learn more and facilitate sessions, I find therapeutic writing a very powerful and fun way to connect to and listen to our internal world.
Here’s hoping your 2020 year is filled with more insight than hindsight.
How do these ideas resonate with you?
Guest Contribution Shirley Anstis. International Women’s Day 2020
Shirley Anstis is a counsellor, author and former magazine editor. She uses counselling, therapeutic writing and mindfulness to support others to work through their past, connect to their present and step into their future. Shirley runs monthly writing workshops for people who wish to try out therapeutic writing. She can also design workshops for particular groups that can apply to many settings and life challenges.
Outside of this her interests include parenting, photography, nature walks, diversity, food and films.