How to safely say what you want to say with a blog.
Have you ever found yourself saying something that surprises you? You are having a conversation and you are broadly in agreement with the other person or people. Suddenly you say something that is absolutely true for you and yet you haven’t said it quite in that way before.
It is a wonderful feeling. You may be slightly astonished by your brilliance and by the fact that what you said really resonates with you. You may want to follow it up further with more ideas, or just to stop the conversation there and think some more.
What usually happens after these moments?
In a perfect world you might get a response that builds on your thought. An extra something that helps you think further. But often the conversation veers off on to another topic. When later you try to recapture what was special for you the idea seems to have fizzled out and you can’t quite get hold of it.
Or someone comes in with a completely opposing view and as your idea was not fully formed it can be easy to be deflated.
Your creative energy is wasted.
A blog gives you a place to hold your ideas
When you have a blog you have a place where your ideas can be developed and expressed. A container just for you where chance conversations become relevant.
When you know that the idea will have a home it will have more life. You will remember it better. You don’t depend on a response to keep it alive.
Random conversations become more interesting. Your response to a television programme, books, music, film, travel will have more relevance, and you treat yourself as someone worth listening to. You start to collect scraps of ideas and they have more weight because you know you can do something with them, even if it is not obvious immediately.
Your blog is safe on the internet.
Reports in the media are constantly talking about the harm that social media and the internet can do. People can feel inadequate and compare themselves with the glossy lives that others seem to have. So it could be reasonable to assume that the internet is a big scary thing that will harm you.
As a sensible person you will engage with people you know on social media and you will look first before jumping in or giving away personal details.
If you have been thinking about starting a blog but have done nothing so far it could be because you want to be authentic. There is advice to tell you that you need to be continually posting information as updates are what get noticed by Google. But if you are writing thoughtful pieces you don’t want to be continually writing. It may not seem right, and is likely to be a quick path to burnout. The internet should not “make” you do anything … it is a servant not a master. You can use it to suit you.
The other way that a blog may not feel safe is that reports in the media are constantly talking about the harm that social media and the internet can do. People can feel inadequate and compare themselves with the glossy lives that others seem to have. So it could be reasonable to assume that the internet is a big scary thing that will harm you.
Again, you can use social media in a way that suits you and your personality. It is an opportunity not a threat. As a sensible person you will engage with people you know or have found in reliable places. There is a real joy to be found in connecting with people with the same interests as you. Caution is needed in all walks of life but it does not need to be dominant.
Don’t die with the music still in you.
This quote is often attributed to Wayne Dyer but I think it was originally from Goethe. You don’t have to be on the point of death for this to be relevant, and your music may have nothing to do with music. Your music is often your thoughts. If you tend to think about others first the chances are that your music may still be in you.
Midlife and older women have a vast knowledge of life. But modern western society tends to favour the young and it can be easy for us to slip into relative obscurity. When you have a blog you can stand up for what you believe in without having to wave a placard, or go to jail like the early suffragettes, or even be contentious at all. No shouting is involved, and often you don’t have to make anything up, you just need to write it down.
But the fact that there is a place where your views can be seen helps to underpin your identity and your angle on life.
By publishing ideas in a blog you don’t have to ask permission from anyone, you don’t have to wait and fit in with a time table defined by something else, the technology is easy and can even be done for free, and you can get help with how to go about starting a blog.
You can be as creative as you wish with images, and also by speaking not writing. Your blog can take you to exciting new places and find you new friends, but it can also just be there as a reminder of who you are.
If you find yourself wanting to change things or caring about something that feels important a blog will be your ally.
Listen to yourself in your conversations. The clues are there already with what you want to say, and the opportunities for saying it with a blog have never been safer or easier.